Spotlight on Sarah Tingay
Everytime a new member joins our team of practitioners here at The Wellbeing Centre, we pose them a series of questions to help us – and you – get to know them better. Please join us in welcoming Hypnotherapist Sarah Tingay of Dream, Believe, Achieve, to our team.
Hi Sarah, could you start by telling us a bit more about yourself & how you became interested in hypnotherapy?
About 20 years ago I lost my son when he was just 3 years old after being born with a Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia (CDH). I was lucky to have a good support network around me and had another child, 2 at the time, to be a mum for. I got through the days and as time went on things got a little easier. It was a hard time as you might imagine but I got through it by learning how to manage the grief. He is a part of our lives everyday. I never forget him.
One of the things that really helped me through this difficult period was talking to others in a similar situation. The hospital that had cared for my son asked me to speak with pregnant mums carrying babies that had been identified with having a similar condition to the one my son had. I would share with them what it was like to care for a child with CDH and also what it is like to cope with the death of that child. Deep stuff.
I used to work as a carer for adults with physical difficulties and acquired brain injuries. I’ve worked with people with learning disabilities, the elderly, people with dementia and MS. I worked for West Berks Social Care up until last year. I’ve always enjoyed working in the care industry and making a difference to people’s lives.
As time went on I began to be drawn more and more to working as a counsellor. Friends and family have often told me I have a gift for getting people to open up to me – strangers seem to end up telling me their life stories, that sort of thing. Once I had the time and the finances to go ahead, I booked on for a counselling course with Chrysalis at Reading University.
As part of that course, I studied hypnotherapy. This was a revelation for me and drew on my interest in the benefits of meditation. I was so intrigued about what I was learning about the way the mind works and to tap into the power of the subconscious to bring about positive changes in my life and the potential to use it to help others lead the life they’ve always dreamed of.
What was your first experience of complementary therapy?
A friend of mine at West Berks Social Services recommended meditation to me – actually Carolyn’s meditations that are still running here at The Wellbeing Centre.
These meditations made a huge difference with me in terms of helping to reduce my stress levels, getting to meet up with like-minded people, & creating within me a more positive state of mind.
I’d often go to the sessions tired and feeling quite low in the evenings but I’d come out feeling almost on a high and a lot more positive about my life and the possibilities ahead of me.
What made you decide to become a therapist yourself?
I’m passionate about helping people to lead more fulfilling and happier lives. I believe this is often brought about through making positive changes about some aspect of their life.
Hypnotherapy is great as it helps get rid of unwanted thoughts, emotions & behaviours that are getting in the way. By helping people let go of these, particularly addressing any stress and anxiety around a particular issue, then they can go on to enjoy their lives more fully and who knows where that might lead them.
If you dream it, I can help you believe it is possible. Once you truly believe it is possible, you can achieve anything you set your mind to.
What are your top 3 tips for wellbeing?
- Learn to love yourself, take notice of all your good points and pay less attention to your perceived flaws. Speak to yourself in a positive way even with your internal voice. Affirmations are a great way of training our subconscious mind to believe more in ourselves.
- However busy you are, make sure you schedule in plenty of ‘me time’. Working on empty is never a good thing. It’s like my nan always said – how can you look after others if you can’t first look after yourself.
- Allow yourself to dream – don’t set limitations on what is possible for you and your life.
Who has been the biggest inspiration for you in your wellbeing journey?
There have been lots! Carolyn recommended lots of great authors, teachers and speakers to me, mostly from Hay House. Louise L Hay, Dr Wayne Dyer and perhaps most of all Sandy Newbigging, the founder of the Mind Calm technique that Carolyn now teaches in her meditation classes.
Sandy’s talks and books have taught me how to make positive changes in my life on a consistent basis. It’s all about the relationship with your mind, emotions, body and life, about working on your inner calm on a regular basis.
And it’s that regular work on yourself that enables you to believe in yourself so that you can achieve what you’ve always dreamed of.
For me that was about becoming a therapist and being in a position able to help other people.
What issues have you had most success in helping your clients with?
The main issues I have had success with so far in terms of helping people make positive changes in their lives are around stress, anxiety and weight loss (often interrelated).
Trying to lose weight can be so frustrating and a long journey. If you have tried and failed to lose weight before then you have probably experienced this frustration. What can be equally as frustrating is the feeling of anxiety, stress, low self-esteem and boredom.
While diets and nutrition plans focus on what you eat and how often, hypnotherapy for weight loss changes how you feel about what you eat. An example of this being eating a carrot but wishing it was a carrot cake. With hypnotherapy, you can learn to enjoy the carrot and not give the cake a second thought.
I know it may seem hard to believe that you may turn down your favorite food for something healthier, but, certain hypnotherapy weight loss techniques may make this possible. By targeting the unconscious mind with powerful suggestion techniques, I could help you to develop a positive relationship with food and exercise and change your thinking pattern, helping you gain control of those cravings in a way that doesn’t depress you.
Hypnotherapy aims to make you feel body confident, changing any negative thoughts you may have and help you lose weight responsibly without impacting on your emotional well-being.
As your hypnotherapist, it is my job is to guide you into a state of deep relaxation. Once your mind and body are relaxed it will give me access to your unconscious mind. Soothing, carefully worded scripts can be used to explore your reasons for over eating and suggest new ways of thinking.
You will have control to reject any suggestions you aren’t happy with. Over time with a series of sessions you will learn to replace your negative habits and replace them with positive ones.
One of the most commonly asked questions is will hypnotherapy work for me?
The answer to that is simple “it is hard to know until you try it”.
While it won’t work in the same way for everyone, the process of talking about developing good habits should help plant a seed and raise awareness when it comes to food and exercise.
One thing to remember is that hypnotherapy is a complimentary therapy, and should be used alongside a healthy eating plan and exercise regime.
If you would like advice about eating better and exercising, you may find it useful to speak to a doctor or nutritionist. It is often the combined effect of all these things that leads to success.
Is there anything else you’d like to share?
Going forwards I’m planning to gain the specialist training and experience needed to work in the area of bereavement and loss. I am excited to be able to offer hypnotherapy to compliment the recovery and support of this process in therapy. Watch this space..
What’s the best way to contact you for more information and to book a treatment with you?
I offer a free 15 minute consultation by phone. We can have a chat to see if I can help you, if you’d like to work with me, or if necessary I can advise you on other options.
To book, please find a suitable time via my online calendar:
Alternatively you can have help booking via the Reception Team here at The Wellbeing Centre on 01635 552874. The Reception is available to help with telephone and drop-in enquiries weekdays 9:30am – 5:30pm and on Saturday mornings.