Our series of blog features “Spotlight on..” gives you an opportunity to find out more about the therapists working at The Wellbeing Centre. We’ve been asking them questions about themselves, how they got interested in complementary therapy and what inspires them to do what they do. Our favourite section is their top tips for Wellbeing. What’s yours?
Tell us a bit about yourself, Daniel.
My name is Daniel and I am a Counsellor here at the Wellbeing Centre. I have lived in the area for some 15 years. Originally from Guisborough North Yorkshire, I still have a distinct northern accent.
I have had many different careers, from Engineering to working with vulnerable adults and children. These different roles helped me develop a deep insight into what makes people ‘tick’ and a sense of compassion to want to help with the daily struggles we all meet in life.
In my early forties I made a big life change and decided to work towards a career that suited my natural skills and personality. This led me to begin the long and arduous journey to re-train and qualify as a professional Counsellor. It is a role that seems very natural to me.
I am a person-centered Counsellor which means that I help people find answers that are individually right for them. This is done by exploring their history and own sense of self, uncovering thoughts, feeling and answers to overcome challenges in life.
In particular, I help with Relationship problems, Depression and Anxiety. I also work with issues around spirituality, faith and frustrations with existence (existential issues).
My work is regulated through my membership of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP). I am also a member of the association of Christian Counsellor. (ACC)
What was your first experience of complementary therapy?
I always believed that sharing problems and feelings with trusted people around us helps clear the fog and see things clearly. I was lucky enough to have been brought up in family which encouraged this.
So in times of difficulty, I naturally turned to others. I found great help having my own professional counsellor. Its great to sit with a friend and chat, but professional counselling offers so much more. It is a relationship where confidentiality, a non-judgemental attitude and advanced empathy are guaranteed. A counsellor is on your side. You can feel safe and accepted.
There is lots of scientific research that concludes that it is our important relationships that are most effective in helping us through the difficulties in life.
What are your top 3 tips for wellbeing?
Stop being busy and be more productive.
It often feels like the world around us demands more of everything. More time, more perfection, more money, more excellence. It becomes very easy to become detached and somehow lose our self in a storm of anxiety and stress. By taking control and looking after our self better, we will become more productive. This is because we start to prioritize on the things that are really important in life, and let go of the stuff that’s tripping us up.
See the value of the friendships and relationships around us.
In a world where self sufficiency and individualism are valued so highly, it is easy to lose sight that we were meant to depend on each other practically and emotionally. Relationships may not last forever, but we need to value, nurture and learn from them. Be curious about each other.
Don’t be afraid to look at life differently.
I value diversity. The more I open myself up to the rich diversity and colour of peoples lives’ the more I see possibilities in my own. Most of the time we live in a bubble, restricted by own experiences and beliefs that were formed as children. When we look outward we can start to see the possibilities of what we can become.
Who has been the biggest inspiration for you in your wellbeing journey?
My parents always encouraged me to look outward at life. To be curious and seek my own sense of purpose and wellbeing. They were the source of my inspiration.
In my work I have been influenced highly by the works of great psychotherapist such as Carl Rogers, Erik Eriksson and Carl Jung. I am also greatly inspired by the great British philosopher Alan Watts. I find his work speaks right to the heart of the human condition.
What issues have you had most success in helping your clients with?
Most personal issues are a reflection of how we see ourselves and our identity. I am successful in helping clients to understand themselves and their world. Understanding how we relate to others and how we function in relationships is quite a revelation and becomes the basis of positive change. My clients have moments of great awareness during counselling. They experience moments where they are waking up to an understanding of themselves.
Can you share an example of a case study with amazing results?
Counselling is confidential. I take care of a persons most vulnerable thoughts and feelings so discussing individual case studies is not possible. However, its not difficult to get some pretty amazing results in counselling. Many people have never really been listened to in a way that puts them truly in the centre. My clients feel listened to, not judged, unconditionally accepted. When they experience this, they find it to be profound. It can seem like those who resist the process gain the most benefit. Many who experience dramatic changes started by saying “I’m not sure I believe in Counselling”.
Is there anything else you’d like to share?
All too often people suffer for a long time before seeing a counsellor. It’s seen as a ‘last resort’ rather than a first choice. In the meantime, problems just get worse, and we sink deeper into our struggle.
Professional Counselling can make a difference. It’s not just a safety net but a practical and positive step in strengthening our ability to live. There is no magic, no complex formula or secret knowledge, just the ancient truth that positive relationships with someone who can accept us, not judge us and want to connect with us have positive effects on our lives, its good to talk.
What’s the best way to contact you for more information and to book a session with you?
Please do get in touch with me to discuss how I may be able to help you. My contact details are:-
N.B. The Wellbeing Centre Reception is open to drop-in and email enquiries weekdays 9:30- 17:30 excluding Bank Holidays. Please note that I am able to see clients outside of these hours by appointment and subject to availability.